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When High Achievement Is Just Self-Hatred Wearing A Suit
Some of the most admired people in the room are not being driven by self-belief at all. They are being chased by self-hatred.
Sometimes extraordinary success is built on a desperate attempt to escape feelings of inadequacy. The promotion, the qualification, the marathon, the business, the perfect body, the endless productivity - they are not always expressions of self-worth. Sometimes they are attempts to create it.
This article explores the psychology of high achievement, from perfectionism and anxiety to childhood attachment wounds and self-hatred, and asks a confronting question: what if the thing driving your success is also quietly diminishing your capacity to enjoy it?